I’m passionate about supporting women to feel truly at home within themselves, because it’s not so long ago that I, too, felt disconnected from my body, my heart, my longing and my own authentic expression.
I’m creating my own path, a path that is uniquely mine – back home to myself – and I’d love to hold space for you to do the same.
1. You feel more calm, peaceful and at ease in your life by learning to trust your body and intuition
2. You feel sure about what you most desire and long for and you’re ready to take action
3. You begin to let go of the pressures and expectations of our modern patriarchal and capitalist society and invite in more slow, simple and intentional ways of living instead
4. You find what brings you joy and make plans to turn those dreams into reality
5. You feel worthy of acceptance and belonging – from both yourself and others
6. You are more deeply connected with nature, and the cycle of the season, so you can ride the ebbs and flows of life without getting exhausted and burning out
7. You take radical care of yourself and tend to your needs
For a long time, I felt a little out of place, like my way of working and being in the world wasn’t quite right, or didn’t quite fit.
I kept settling for jobs, relationships and friendships that were “fine” but didn’t really light me up. I was never able to truly be myself. I was always hiding something, and most of the time I didn’t even realize it.
On some level, I knew I wanted more, but I had convinced myself that I was happy and everything was as it should be.
I was disconnected from myself, from my values, from what was most important to me.
Instead, I had internalized what was most important to everyone else and what I “should” do with my life. I walked the path that had been laid out for me.
And then one day, I got tired of it.
One day I realized that where I had ended up was miles away from where I actually wanted to be, and I started listening. I started listening to the stirrings of my soul once again.
Maybe right now you are noticing that sense of disconnection from your own body, from your desires, from your longing. Maybe you are standing at a crossroads and trying to decide which route will take you back to your whole self. Or maybe, like me, you’re miles away from where you wanted to end up and have no idea how that happened.
I see you. We’re not so different, you and I. I’ve felt all of those things too.
And somewhere along the way I made the decision to carve out a new path, a path back to what I, me, not anyone else, actually wanted my life to look like. It hasn’t been easy. I’ve made mistakes, I’ve double backed, I’ve gotten lost and then found. But it’s been worth it, because now I am living a life that I once only dreamed of, a life in alignment with my desires. And while I still have a long way to go, and I know this journey is a lifelong one, I feel whole, complete, and truly happy – for real this time.
And that’s what I’m passionate about. That’s why I’m here doing this work. Because I want that for you too.
Heal your anxiety, unravel old habits and coping patterns, and cultivate emotional wellness in my online membership program or in one of my courses. Doors open at various points throughout the year, and you can read more about these offerings here.
Every second Monday I send out an email letter inviting you to engage in a slower and more intentional approach to life and to reconnect with yourself. You can sign up for them here.
You can also tune into my podcast or read my blog, where I explore all of the topics I’ve mentioned on this page more deeply.
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) and EMDR therapist, with a Masters of Counselling Psychology from the University of Victoria, I specialize in working with trauma and anxiety, and supporting individuals to remove the blocks getting in the way of living their fullest lives.
Occasionally I have spaces opening up for individual therapy, either online or in person on Salt Spring Island, where I can help you recover your true self and create a life that’s in alignment with how you want to feel. You can read more about that and get on the waitlist here.
1. COMPASSION – FOR SELF AND OTHERS
We cannot change what we are unable to accept. Developing a willingness to be compassionate toward ourselves is vital.
2. UNDERSTANDING WHY THINGS ARE THE WAY THEY ARE
Sometimes we can be overly hard on ourselves when we don’t understand the reasons we act or think a certain way. With my support, you’ll explore your past experiences, trauma, and relationships so you can better understand your current reality. Awareness is the first step.
3. UNPACKING NEGATIVE BELIEFS ABOUT SELF AND THE WORLD
Throughout our lives we learn a lot of stories about how we should see ourselves and perceive the world, especially when we are children. Understanding where your negative beliefs come from and realizing how they are no longer serving you is an important element of this work. Seeing those self-judgment narratives clearly can help create space for more positive and adaptive ways of perceiving yourself and others.
4. TAPPING INTO EMOTIONS
Feelings need to be felt, so we’ll feel them. It can be scary to explore our emotions. We can become afraid that feeling something will mean we get stuck in that feeling state, but in order to end, emotions need to be experienced. I’ll help you find safe ways to experience your feelings.
5. RECOVERING YOUR TRUE SELF
Who were you before the world told you who you should be or before traumatic incidents shaped you? We all have a true version of ourselves, but the events that we experience often get in the way of our ability to cultivate that part of us. Let’s uncover your most authentic self and find ways to live in greater integrity.
6. FINDING INDIVIDUALIZED WAYS TO CREATE A FULFILLING LIFE ON YOUR TERMS
This experience is all about you. You are the expert on your own life, and you are the one steering the ship that is your journey. I am here to support you, but I’m not tied to any one way of doing things. There is no right or wrong way, there is only your way. I’m here to help you find it. Together.
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